Continuing in my series-rant of social networking, we find ourselves continuing in the realm of friends. Its common knowledge that the ‘friends’ aspect of any social networking site is the blood of the animal, the gasoline of the car, the money of the economy (insert more metaphors here). It enables the site to function. Without friends it would just be a network, and without social it would just be a heaping pile of useless code floating around on the Internet.
This has nothing to do with my point. But I figured a witty intro would add a nice touch to the post.
The real question is: how many of these so-called ‘friends’ are actually our friends? Do you really care about them as a person? Or do you just want their pending request approved in order to boost up your friend count for a higher, real life, popularity level?
For myself I consider every person I have ‘friended’ on facebook to be just that, a friend. Granted, there are a few that have friended me that I don’t consider as such, mostly because I hardly know who they are. Does that mean I’m a victim of the same disease that seems to plague my fellow teens? I don’t think so, I just don’t want to seem like a douche.
But would it really make me one? Refusing a friend request from a person you don’t really know (just by name is what I’m getting at) seems like a logical reaction to me. So why didn’t I do it?
Because in this world of social networking if you even remotely know someone, even friends of friends of friends are consider your friends. I suppose I have more of a problem with the sites calling this area of the network as such.
Perhaps the ‘friends’ section should be renamed ‘Accuaintences (and also Friends)’.
I guess that’s a tad too long of a title, however.
This whole post seems a tad superficial, and perhaps it is.
What really gets me is that even interacting with someone on the aforementioned sites really adds nothing to your personal relationship in the first place. I’ve even had some cases where people tend to shy away from me after requesting, where before they were quite friendly. ’tis a strange paradox.
I’ve also noticed that I hardly interact with my close, personal friends on the site, and moreso with those I consider to be more of an accuaintence than a friend. Perhaps that is because I see them on a daily basis anyway (a direct correlation: because I see them more often they become a closer friend?).
I found this whole realm of friends to be very deceiving in the first place. I’ve noted there are some people out there in my ‘network’ that I would consider an accuaintence, but have not friended them simply because I don’t really care. It would add nothing to the relationship in anyway, so why bother?
I realize this has all been one of my train-of-thought posts. But I just needed to think this through on ‘paper’.